Benefits of Marriage The main benefits of marriage are: 1. Seeking children. Marriage contributes
to the building of society, propagation of
the human race, and increasing the
numbers of Muslims. 2. Pleasing the Prophet (pbuh), by
increasing the numbers of his followers. “Marry the loving and child-bearing, for I
shall outnumber the nations by you on
the Day of Resurrection.” (Ahmad. A
similar narration has been recorded by
al-Bayhaqi and al-Tabarani, and Hafiz ibn
Hajar cited it in “al-Fath” indicating that it is hasan or sahih according to him) 3. Seeking blessings through a righteous
child through his Du’a and other good
deeds on your behalf after your death, or
should the child die young then through
his intercession. “When the son of Adam dies, his good
deeds come to an end, except from three
[sources] : perennial charity (sadaqah
jariyah), knowledge from which benefit
is obtained, and a pious child who prays
for him.” [Riyad al-Saliheen] Other benefits are: 4. Protection from Satan through
legitimate channelling of the sex drive,
thereby saving oneself and one’s spouse
from related sins. 5. Peace of mind and companionship,
development of love and mercy between
the spouses. 6. Development of ties between families. 7. Sharing of tasks in the household, such
that the overall burden on each person is
less. 8. Inculcation of a sense of responsibility
and improvement of one’s self through
expending effort and making sacrifices
for the protection and welfare of one’s
family, taking care of their needs
(physical, material, emotional, spiritual), and bearing inconveniences and each
other’s faults patiently. Dangers of Marriage At the same time, there are potential
dangers to marriage, which one must
watch beware of and try to avoid. Among them : 1. Failure to earn halal income, such that
one turns to increasing his income
through haram means, in the effort to
spend on one’s family. 2. Failure to fulfil the duties of marriage,
in particular the rights of the wife, or
failure to be patient with its difficulties. “Every one of you is a guardian, and
every one of you is liable to be
questioned about those in his care. The
man is a guardian with regard to his
family, and is liable to be questioned
about those in his care. The woman is a guardian with respect to her husband’s
house, and is liable to be questioned
about that in her care. So, every one of
you is a guardian, and every one of you
is liable to be questioned about those in
his care.” (Bukhari, Muslim) 3. Being distracted by one’s family from
religious obligations, such that one
spends his days and nights in enjoyment
with them without caring to ponder over
the Hereafter to work for it. “O you who believe! Let not your wealth
or your children distract you from the
remembrance of Allah. And whoever
does that, they are the losers.” [Quran,
63:9] Conclusion “A dinar which you spend in the path of
Allah, a dinar which you spend [to free] a
slave, a dinar which you give as sadaqah
to a needy person, and a dinar which you
spend on your family: the most superior
of these is the one which you spend on your family.” Our Lord! Grant us spouses and offspring
who will be the comfort of our eyes, and
makes us leaders for the pious. O Allah!
Grant blessings and peace to our
Messenger Muhammad, and to his
Household and Companions.
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