1st. The first one is your husband, so he should be your best-friend
2nd. The second one is either your friend or spouse2b, in fact he is your enemy in disguised.
3rd. Everyone make mistake, but the best of us are those who change once and for all when they have realise.
4th. Don’t justify your lusts and pleasures derive from the wrong place, wallahi you will never be at ease (mentally, spiritually and even physically) stricken by a virus or something.
5th. When your boyfriend is halal, all the hugs, kisses, playing with him is halal and Allah reward your pleasurable activities, so the more you both play and enjoy, the more reward you get from your Creator.
And same for the brothers
WHICH IS BETTER? WHO IS THE LOSER?