Build Relations: Hijaab does not mean to Break Relations
Generally it has been observed that some people are breaking relationships due wearing Hijaab. If every one thinks negatively, then life will become miserable. In reality they need to do research from the Quraan, to find out what Allah really means about Hijaab. There is a limit for everything and we need to find the right way to have Hijaab. Let us study a few sample cases.
Suppose you are the only brother of your only sister, who has one teenaged daughter, is very poor, and due to some reason her husband either passed away or separated. Where should she go other than come to live with you, since you are the only Mahram and she cannot afford to pay rents etc.? What if you have also a teenaged son? Will you send away your only son, or want him to live with you and have a good education, since now a days, it is extremely hard to find jobs that require manual labour. Those type of jobs are done with machines these days. So your son needs to go for professional education. In brief everyone needs to live in one house, because it is too expensive to have more than one. You will be stuck if you are narrow minded.
Suppose you are very sick and need urgent help to save your life and you have teenaged daughter. How can your teenaged nephew help you? You will be stuck if you are narrow minded.
Suppose your cousin-sister has only one relative, which is you, who is middle-aged, and due to some reason your cousin-sister’s husband either passed away or separated. She has no children, does not want to marry again, cannot afford to pay rents, etc. Where should she go? Where will she feel safe other than with you, since you are the only closest relative (cousin)? You will be stuck if you are narrow minded.
Holy Quran answers:
All these issues and frees you from all negative thinking. Teach your kids to behave like brothers or sisters among their cousins. There is NO place for talks of love affairs or negative thinking in Islam, although it allows marriages among cousins, such negative thinking is not tolerated. Religious Talks, Family Talks, Educational Talks are always allowed among cousins as well. Let use do a detailed analysis on these issues.
And (as for) the believing men and the believing women, they are guardians of each other; they enjoin good and forbid evil and keep up prayer and pay the poor-rate, and obey Allah and His Messenger; (as for) these, Allah will show mercy to them; surely Allah is Mighty, Wise.(Al_Quraan_009:071)