These hearts are not in our hands, obey Allah, and Allah
will make you love your spouse. So the prophet (PBUH) showed the Ummah that love comes from Allah, if you obey Allah, Allah will make you love your spouse, and will make your spouse love you.
I share with you a real love story of man who went to work in the gulf countries for many years, he was very poor when he went there, but he became wealthy, his father was a very righteous man, and used to be a Imam.
So the young man after accumulating this wealth, said to
his father: My father I want to get married, a lot of years
passed by without being married and now I want to get
married. And I want you to choose a wife for me, and I
want you to go ahead and do the marriage contract, and I
want to go into the actual marriage the day that I arrive, I
don’t want to see her before that. This is how much he trusted his father, off course a righteous man knows that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: a woman is asked in marriage for 4 reasons, wealth, beauty, lineage and Religion, you better go for the Religion.
He chose a very religious woman for his son, but yet her
physical appearance was not the best. The son arrived at
the airport in Egypt, and he was taken to his wife who was
wearing a veil. Then he got into the room with her alone,
and as soon as she unveiled herself he became shocked,
he became shocked!
“This is the wife that my father chose for me? Shes not
beautiful, shes not beautiful! He became so depressed!,
here I come after all these years, and this is what I get?”
He became so depressed that he just went to sleep. Towards the last third of the night, the wife who understood the reaction of the husband, tried to wake him up, he refused, she tried again, he refused, and then she sprinkled water over him to wake him up, and then he
woke up, and she spoke to him: I know how disappointed
you are, and i understand I’m not beautiful, but you know
what, I wished to get married for one reason.
I wanted to implement the Hadith of the Prophet when he
said: May Allah have mercy on a man who wakes up at
night to pray and then he wakes up his wife, and if she
does not wake up, he will sprinkle some water over her
face, to wake her up. And may Allah have mercy on a
woman who wakes up at night to pray and then she wakes up her husband, and if he does not wake up, she
will sprinkle some water over his face, to wake him up.
And by Allah, I am so grateful to you that you granted me
that wish, I wanted to implement that Hadith so much,
and I was a little bit hopeless that I would not get married,
because I am not beautiful.
Can you please now fulfill the rest of this Hadith with me?
Can you wake up and just lead me in salah, pray tahajjud
with me? He wake up and led her in salah. This man swears by Allah, that as soon as he ended his tahajjud, leading her in salah, I looked at her as if I am looking at the most beautiful woman in the world. That’s the way it goes, don’t be deceived by all these soap opera’s and movies, the love gets to the heart because of Allah, Allah can make you love your spouse, but you and your spouse obey Allah, lead your wives in salah, have your husbands make you lead you in salah.
This family, they have grandchildren who memorize the Quran, and they are students of knowledge, and some of
them are about to become scholars of this ummah. Don’t
compromise, nor test the commands of Allah, if you want
to live happily ever after.
May Allah bless all married Muslim couples’ marriages and grant those unmarried a righteous life partner who will lead them to Jannah (Ameeeen Yaa Allah). Love but love for the sake of Allah. However the true love for the sake of Allah is honored on the Day of Judgment. It is when the loved ones remain in Jannah together forever.